Decoded, this equation refers to the tough time many short men have trying to find a romantic partner because some women won’t date someone shorter than they are. If you push them, they will hedge a bit: “I don’t know why, I’m just not.” As a psychologist, it’s not my job or place to be mean-spirited or hurtfully blunt, but it is my job to tell it like it is in reality.
The message many women send short men goes something like this: Yeah, sorry, but nothing you could say or do could ever give you a chance with me. For those of you who insist that you’re not attracted to short men, you should, at least, try to have a good reason why you’re not.
” or “He's really funny, trust me.” Or even, “I don't care about trivial things like height.” You should not have to make justifications about your choice of mate. He likes to brag about his career and how successful he is.
For some reason, people think that you must be desperate for a boyfriend — just because he’s short. You just look so cute standing on that little ledge. ”You just can't help wondering, “Is that suit jacket from the boys’ section at Barney's, or what? So you call him your “little munchkin” and ask if he can reach the top shelf without a stool. He wants to be a “man.”He has a classic Napoleon complex.
He tries harder, and he’s funnier and nicer than the tall douchebags who don’t put in the effort. He may not be society’s “ideal” height, but he's a good boyfriend — and that's what matters most.
Check out this equation: Dating Short Men = Uphill Battle. I haven’t conducted a study of my own on the subject, but I can assure you that scores of women of every type will say they simply aren’t attracted to short men.
Some of the kindest, strongest and most committed men I know are short.
Sexual attraction largely derives from your upbringing.
You don't want this to affect your relationship, but somehow it just does. But having a short guy on top of you is always slightly awkward.
No matter how many times you tell yourself you're totally fine with this, it's still there in the back of your head, eating away at your happiness. You're the one who agreed to date him in the first place, you a-hole! When his feet reach only the tops of your ankles, it’s weird.
Men and women both fall prey to the (remarkably persistent) myth that sexual attraction works on auto-pilot, as if we are all preprogrammed to be attracted to the ones who captivate our attention. The type of person you’re attracted to depends largely on your beliefs. My client, Alexis, comes from the most machismo family I can imagine, full of firefighters, Marines, and gobs of Old Spice. In Alexis’ family, she was the only daughter and the men in her family were brawny and tough.
She is one of my clients who has never dated a short man, and she has no intention to ever date one.